"Christian" Is Not A Choice--But Hurting Others Is

I recently made the point that, at least to an extent, one cannot choose their belief system. However, one can choose how to express it.
You do not have a "right" to own a business. If your personal beliefs do not let you serve everyone equally, then the decent and ethical thing to do would be to sell your business, so that others do not have to be discriminated against. Even if it's your dream, to own such a business--because it's our dream to be equal citizens, and not have to be told we're abominations when we're planning the happiest day of our lives. Sometimes people feel led to give up their dreams, for God; that's just the way it is. (Or should Rosa have simply gone to the back of the bus, and not "caused trouble"?)
You also do not have a right to demand that the government support "biblical" marriage. Marriage, at least in this sense, is a legal contract. If it was the government's business what "real" marriage was, then divorced people would not be allowed to remarry. You are a hypocrite, if you support one form of "unbiblical" marriage, and not another--especially if you are divorced yourself. (And if you really did repent, then you would try to get back together with your ex or one of your exes! At least Kim Davis did that much.)
Now matter how much I pity or sympathize with other people, I must fight them, as much as I can, if they are hurting others. And they don't get to decide whether they're hurting others or not; abusers mostly don't know that they're abusers! One can only really know how much they are being hurt, not how much they are hurting others. Abusers don't think of what they're doing as abuse, and rapists often don't think of what they did as rape, because it doesn't fit the cliches. You don't have to intend to hurt someone, or even to know you're hurting them, in order to hurt them.
It doesn't even matter how much or how little you "hate" other people; if you are hurting people, you are hurting people! The fact that you say you love us, does not make being second-class citizens hurt any less. (And what the heck do you call people who don't have equal rights? There's a name for these people: Second-class citizens!)
I'm not sure why people expect me to care whether they hate me or not. That has absolutely nothing to do with whether one is hurting others.

I couldn't shake my beliefs in hell, and a homophobic and sexist god, for a long time. And it was because of fear--because anything different seemed too good to be true. And I was taught to distrust any idea that I liked or actually wanted to believe, because my flesh was bad. But I'm glad that social media was not around when I was thirteen. I'm glad I couldn't hurt very many people with my inherently hurtful beliefs. I was a prisoner to these beliefs, but I still could have done a lot of damage.
Bothering other people, when they don't want to listen to your message, is not okay. Taking away legal rights is not okay. Discrimination, even in the name of God, is not okay. You have a choice: To ask if someone wants to hear your message, and then respect their "no," as Jesus said to in the bible. To understand that it is a legal contract, and that you cannot force your religion onto others. To sell your business, or choose not to do any weddings at all.
If people were being fired for marrying someone of the opposite sex, Christians would be outraged. If people were being denied the right to legally marry the opposite sex, they would be livid--even though they could always marry in their church, anyway. And if Muslims were refusing to do Christian weddings, people would not be talking about business owners' rights as if they were sacred.
Being Christian, or even conservative, is sometimes not a choice. But hurting others is. If you have a deeply held religious belief, you are the one who should make the sacrifices--not others. Apparently, a lot of Christians do not believe in a god that rewards their sacrifices made for him. Or they do not believe that the rewards will be worth it...Interesting...